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To Love, to Live, to Be Hurt
Thinking about intimate relationships
About the Event
Date and time: Nov 8, 2024 (Fri) 7:30PM
Location: 16595 Redmond Way, Redmond, WA 98052 (Eastline Apartment 3F Clubroom)
Topic: To Love, to Live, to Be Hurt: Thinking about intimate relationships
Capacity: 30 people
— A reading introduction from the speaker —
We live in intimate relationships every day: friendships, family ties, and romantic attachments.
But how well do we understand or sustain them? Have they hurt us deeply? Has anticipation ever given way to fear?
Using Intimate Relationships as a guide, this session takes a reasoned approach to a subject often treated through feeling. We will consider what intimacy means, how psychology and economics can help explain it, and how friendships, romantic attachments, and family relationships develop and endure.
We will also share and discuss stories of love and matchmaking in Seattle.
Each of us both participates in and observes intimate relationships. Come to hear others’ views and talk about your own experience.
We look forward to seeing you on Friday evening.
P.S. We will touch on some much-discussed questions: love at first sight or love that grows; pursuit and withdrawal; emotional support; first impressions and repeated exposure; and an unofficial guide to dating apps.
— Speaker —
Run Chen
Moving between the coolness of numbers and the warmth of words.
Erbai
A programmer and part-time fitness trainer, an ardent believer in science, and an omnivorous reader.
— Schedule —
Arrival and seating
Opening and participant introductions: briefly share a recent book, film, program, or piece of music you enjoyed (3 minutes each).
Speaker’s talk: Thinking about intimate relationships
Questions and exchanges with the speaker are welcome throughout (about one hour in total).
Group photo
— Registration —
https://forms.gle/6bfpMEv1ZvbdCbTg6
Please use the registration link above.
Registration order is determined by the link above.
Your email address is used to send the apartment access code and instructions.
After registering, add the assistant on WeChat to join the event group.
📌 Include “book club” in your friend request.
Find the account “别处读书会” on Xiaohongshu.
Find out about other events.
About Elsewhere Book Club
Elsewhere Book Club
The name Elsewhere comes from Milan Kundera’s Life Is Elsewhere.
Life Is Elsewhere.
We seem more inclined to imagine a golden age when looking backward or forward. Yet, in my own life, this moment and elsewhere have become inseparable, each giving meaning to the other.
Live fully in this moment. The search for elsewhere also takes place here and now.
I had just arrived in Seattle. In an unfamiliar place, my first impulse was to start a small book club, perhaps to meet others who find steadiness in books and enjoy sustained conversation.
Mount Sumeru within a mustard seed; a mustard seed holding Mount Sumeru.
I hope this small space can give us somewhere to exchange ideas each week.
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Date and time: Nov 8, 2024 (Fri) 7:30PM
Location: 16595 Redmond Way, Redmond, WA 98052 (Eastline Apartment 3F Clubroom)
Topic: To Love, to Live, to Be Hurt: Thinking about intimate relationships
Capacity: 30 people
— A reading introduction from the speaker —
We live in intimate relationships every day: friendships, family ties, and romantic attachments.
But how well do we understand or sustain them? Have they hurt us deeply? Has anticipation ever given way to fear?
Using Intimate Relationships as a guide, this session takes a reasoned approach to a subject often treated through feeling. We will consider what intimacy means, how psychology and economics can help explain it, and how friendships, romantic attachments, and family relationships develop and endure.
We will also share and discuss stories of love and matchmaking in Seattle.
Each of us both participates in and observes intimate relationships. Come to hear others’ views and talk about your own experience.
We look forward to seeing you on Friday evening.
P.S. We will touch on some much-discussed questions: love at first sight or love that grows; pursuit and withdrawal; emotional support; first impressions and repeated exposure; and an unofficial guide to dating apps.
— Speaker —
Run Chen
Moving between the coolness of numbers and the warmth of words.
Erbai
A programmer and part-time fitness trainer, an ardent believer in science, and an omnivorous reader.
— Schedule —
Arrival and seating
Opening and participant introductions: briefly share a recent book, film, program, or piece of music you enjoyed (3 minutes each).
Speaker’s talk: Thinking about intimate relationships
Questions and exchanges with the speaker are welcome throughout (about one hour in total).
Group photo
— Registration —
https://forms.gle/6bfpMEv1ZvbdCbTg6
Please use the registration link above.
Registration order is determined by the link above.
Your email address is used to send the apartment access code and instructions.
After registering, add the assistant on WeChat to join the event group.
📌 Include “book club” in your friend request.
Find the account “别处读书会” on Xiaohongshu.
Find out about other events.
About Elsewhere Book Club
Elsewhere Book Club
The name Elsewhere comes from Milan Kundera’s Life Is Elsewhere.
Life Is Elsewhere.
We seem more inclined to imagine a golden age when looking backward or forward. Yet, in my own life, this moment and elsewhere have become inseparable, each giving meaning to the other.
Live fully in this moment. The search for elsewhere also takes place here and now.
I had just arrived in Seattle. In an unfamiliar place, my first impulse was to start a small book club, perhaps to meet others who find steadiness in books and enjoy sustained conversation.
Mount Sumeru within a mustard seed; a mustard seed holding Mount Sumeru.
I hope this small space can give us somewhere to exchange ideas each week.